My boyfriend and I started a relationship 3 months ago. This is an old post but was wondering what you did? it was boring and dull. A. If you almost never see each other, then sitting down to talk about your relationship or his lack of effort would look much different than if you live together. Each weekend he has been helping his DJ friend ( his BFF), or going out with best buddies. He if he is not putting in the effort to help you, that becomes tiring and it is not fair. 36 Questions to Ask Your Partner That Lead to Love, 6 Signs Youre Growing Apart From Your Partner, take a negative toll on your relationship, determine if the partnership is worth mending. when it comes to affection, i literally have to initiate everything. We got in a fight because I said I was upset because he hadnt made time for me in the last week. (He still didnt) I asked him to please text me if he was going to be late and he got upset with me. But you have to become selfless. I dont know what to do. Show that you love them, laugh, argue, help eachother. Ive had a talk with him a few times that I feel like his mom, Im always cleaning and cooking and have to tell him what needs to be done. He has been better now and takes time to analyze his intention before he says more. i just wish he would be more emotionally available. Because he needs time for himself and his past time projects, which is understandable as he is more introverted. He is using you for everything you got. Does your boyfriend still care? When he is sad I quit everything to cheer him up. I used to be patient but recently Ive been having anger issues and he knows how to handle my mood accordingly. Meaning if he doesnt step up when you pull back. What should I do? We havent had sex on a Saturday in about a year. My brother did tell me that he may be going through some things in his personal life that he is not ready to share with me. He was very affectionate and gentle towards me and would make it a point to call me every day, the first maybe 2-3 months of our relationship. And youll likely receive the same treatment. Not just his X But his friends to and the kids. He replied: about what? He does not feel like he should go the extra mile to do anything as long as you know he loves you. That will show me he doesnt plan on committing for the long haul. :'(. Its a long distance relationship, we live 2 hours away from each other. Texting in his way showed me just how little hed been giving me and Id been accepting it. Hello, Thank you for creating this platform. we see each other once a week, he invites me to his place at 9pm only to sleep together. It can make you feel insecure like theres something wrong with you. I dont think it is good to waste peoples time. Right now I want to clear things out and make this the last time we talk about this, because in the last month I told him many times that I felt like he made no time for me and was making more effort to spend time with his friends than with me, and he doesnt even answers my texts. He said he was going to do it. Also, and Im not materialistic by any means, hes offered to buy me lots of things or even just give me money to help with bills. i cried a lot i asked myself will i love him back after knowing everything. Hi I have been in relation with my boyfriend for 3 months now. Thats was our first time seeing each other in person (granted, Id seen him randomly beforehand in elementary school years before that). Ive mentioned his lack of effort and he did take it on bored but recently Im seeing a slip into his old ways. A relationship is 50/50. He is educated, working on a doctorate degree, employed, non smoker, drinks socially, is religious and knowledgeable about the Bible. He was pursuing and attentive at first, expressed that he wanted a committed monogamous relationship, and did little things like bringing me gifts, making sure I had water at night when I stayed over, giving me a sweatshirt of his to wear in the morning, just little attentive kind things. Maybe he doesnt want to look like a fool. im still inlove with him up to now but i feel so tired understanding him and ive been unhappy throughtout the relationship. I realized how I stopped wearing some clothes because he didnt like them, for example. Please give me some advice pleaaaase. Misery loves company, I guess, because I am so damn happy to know that someone else is suffering the same as me and now I dont feel just so alone. However, he has never been one to put in huge amounts of effort. I dont know why he got back with me when he cant even put effort. ANGRY ALL THE TIME. surprisely right after I unblocked him he sent me a message saying hi and hows life? my ex best friend told him everything and ever since then its been a nightmare. The day before yesterday he texted me saying hes been feeling unwell and didnt get much sleep. I dont understand the change in behavior, at all. Especially for someone like me who is lonely all the time. No boyfriend in the world can fill the emptiness that only God can fill. So any advice for me would be great! I tried to be understanding and not ask for a lot but it just got worse. And I decided Ive had enough, and it wasnt even a full month yet! I got to see him in person for the first time and we were in love. Its been six months now and so far nothing. But, he still seems emotionally unavailable in that he doesnt know how to express his feelings for me, or reassure me. Rather than jumping to conclusions, have a conversation with your partner and ask them what's been on their mind and the reasons for their apparent loss of interest. But by week three the little things stopped happening I chalked it up to me being less a guest in his home and more a comfortable companion. Thats sad. Meet new people, and make quality friends who youd rather spend time with and make him feel that he is not the ONLY one you have, but a choice you have made to spend some time of your life with. He is perfect to me but like anyone else comes with problems. Idk I really love him hes the first person thats ever given my butterflies or made me actually feel anything, but I just feel like its all changed now maybe and Im not sure how to continue. I just feel like that is so little reassurance for what would be 7 years together, that we would have the possibility to then just maybe live together. You dont have to change your personality, but you may need to change your expectations. dont waste your time on a man that is using you. And then the other half of me cant help but feel like perhaps he just doesnt want to go on a date with me at all and thats why he never made an effort. Ladies lay back and observe. HI CHRIS, MY BOYFRIEND ALSO DRINKS A LOT. We moved forward and ever since our relationship has been better than ever. im in the same boat as you and it really sucks. Hello everyone, Ive been with my boyfriend for two years, hes a good man, kind and gentle and always takes care of me. it breaks my heart that despite all my efforts still i been judged as a selfish gf. That it was fine even though I was angry but I didnt show him the anger. I thought that would be an isolated incident but it happened again this weekend. Over time, it wore away at me, he was only putting back in 10%. Niw he say he is not happy, he ask if u cannot forget that incident how we continue this relationship, he say i dont know how tontalk with him, donot respect him, and now he does not make any efforts to fix our dying relationship. You didnt like THAT answer, did you? Help. I appreciate when he does make effort and try to acknowledge it but it quickly goes away like he doesnt mean it. When you let go, you find peace and freedom. hed text at 11-1am for me, but by then i would have fallen asleep. The three emotions you suggested we wrote down mine were: Last on the priorities, unloved, lonely/lost. I am so sorry you are going through this. I hate to say it maybe he did something he wasnt so suppose to and felt guilty leading him to end things. You want him to be different. We had romantic dates and fell in love at first sight. Same thing happened another day and another. Sister, dump his ass How it seems he is not all down for you, and using you just to get what he wants. The same month, I started my PhD program but I still made the time to see him. When I first met him I didnt think I needed a relationship but now especially in this lockdown I feel a little empty and alone. He starts fights or creates conflict for no reason then blames me. Every time I try to tell him how i feel about him not making an effort in general and on nights out, and social media etc, he usually gets angry/annoyed and makes me feel so bad. And more likely, he wont change. Maybe what you see as your boyfriends lack of effort is simply a normal part of being in a solid, comfortable relationship. Is it too much to expect from a boyfriend to ask out his girlfriend one a month? That night at 1 am I snuck out and had his sis pick me up. FUNCITONING ALCOHOLIC. Maybe not right now but sooner than 5 years from now, of that I am certain. My 30th birthday was two days ago. ps. He used to put in a little more effort Im confused. Im not sure how to approach any of this with him. Its just making me feel awful but its so difficult because he is my life Ive been with him that long and he is a sensitive person I dont want to hurt his feelings as he isnt bad at all hes just lazy, but I really feel like Im wasting my time now. He constantly tells me he loves me but its starting to feel less true. But what?! I dont get any attention unless Im the first one to initiate things. I just feel hurt and we just had a big fight yesterday and I feel kinda empty. Right now hes not even talking to me. He is so passive. I hope everything goes well for both us to get this relationship last. He nolonger would make as much effort, like call or text to check on me. By lack of effort I mean that its almost like pulling teeth to get him to plan weeks ahead to figure out when we will be able to see eachother. I did not even have to think about going this is what people do for each other. But he would rather break up than try to understand what makes me happy and make an effort. I am often not successful but I realized in the last 1-2 years, it is him. He said he loved me but that he was not happy with me and that it has been a long time since he began feeling this way. Does Your Life Feel Pointless Without a Relationship? Is like he is taking his frustration with having no control at work out on me. Could you be the one who's not listening? Lives like a pig in his own house. Dont turn a blind eye on things that are sign showing and you are not happy for them. I been paying for everything(food,gas,food, weed). Do I let this person disrespect my boundary? He dosnt wnt to sex i know that well. But he was not my husband and my family didnt approve of such activities before marriage. Nor was him working full time and on his masters degree for 18 months. I feel like he doesnt love me as much as he used to. She threatened to send my bf to jail idk how tho. In a year and a half weve gone on maybe 2 dates and I had to beg for them. One month later. I dont think he will change. I guess what im really confused about is, Is he really just being comfortable or is he thinking that i would never leave him ( he knows) so it dosent matter how he treats me or how much effort he puts in? Find the courage to leave him! dont know if you guys familliar with Myasthenia gravis.. its an auto immune decease which makes your muscle gets weak. Just know, that you DO deserve love in this relationship. but he never ever ever takes any pictures of me to show me off. In regards to the relationship, when you get more rest and relaxation and go back to your favorite hobby, find ways to invite the guy. He said he would change, but he said that before. He is making zero effort for me. weve lived together over 2 years now. I am not allowed upstairs in their house either, it just makes me feel uncomfortable if I go to his. I am clearly the one putting any effort into the relationship where I think I have just made it too easy for him. He has free accommodation, food, gas, sexy times, meals cooked, washing done etc. Since then my boyfriend has made no effort in our relationship. Especially no Valentines or birthday. I really think this will be a good thing for us because Ill be able to have my own independence and maybe make him see that I can be happy without him (even tho as of right now we are planning on staying together and commuting to each other when we can). Then I gave up on trying to figure it out. Never happened. Its like Im wrapped around his finger but he doesnt want to care and so its hard for me to let go because I truly love him but hes not the same with me. I have been with my boyfriend 15 years and yes he is still boyfriend no engagement no wedding haha. But when we got home, there was another fight awaiting us. I told him about how I felt scared I looked too nerdy in my full protection hear and helmet and everyone else wasnt wearing any. Always cussed them out and called them names, and he works a whole day.. we are now behind on bills , our electric is over 300$ , our wifi is 170+$, we have another wifi bill from another company thats 200+$, and hes had multiple concussions and a broken hip from hockey a long time ago.. Hes become so inward that I have to question him daily and it hurts.. Now i think ill do my best to be nice to him for some time and if he doesnt change i leave him.. Is it ok for wait and see for his cahnge? They say age shouldnt matter, but it does play a part. Ugh. If you aren't getting the attention you need and deserve, it may be time to move on. I mentallyI dont understand the action itself . This is the only problem in our relationship, the lack of effort. Were both not yet married with our partners since both of our relationship with our partners is not okay. Girl what? Being that were sophomore and junior now, we dont have any classes together. Try to be better. But I clearly have seen enough examples of the ones who simply stops caring when they are sure that we will be theirs and we will always care about them no matter what. So currently on the couch drinking a beer, eating leftovers from a 3 days ago (which is humorous because he could have at LEAST heated that up for me) and then all the sudden the dog jumps up at me. because of this i have been resentful and he became more distant as a result of that. second: (and here is the big thing!) Can anyone help me and give me some advice? Hes sees things in one paranoid way only, that Im selfish and dont really love him and just like the things he can give me. And I know its not healthy to compare your relationships to others but Id be lying if I said I never wish my relationship was more like others. For the past few weeks we only have time in night to chat since hes busy for work but he always talk about sex and video chat with me to see my pussy and whenever I rejected him I dont get a reply or he would say hed go to sleep. The key is to not give them the key to our happiness. You are strong. I have shared my emotions and thoughts to him, he tells me Im over reacting, I am being silly and he is still fully interested in me. So, I believe I know him very well. Either way I have decided to just sit back and live my life. what is the project you have to work on together . 3: like he hates me so much and it wont be long or difficult for someone he likes better to come along and replace me. He said hes tired or too busy. Im in the same exact boat. And he knows that Im on the edge of being homeless and I know theres not much he can do. Its a painful truth. Recently I even paid half of his carnote because he didnt have the money until next week & I couldnt get my hair or nails done. And, your definition of not making an effort may not match your boyfriends definitionwhich means youre operating from a completely different set of expectations. He also said that I know how he is and that he is tired from work. Again, thank you Sumiah and to the other ladies in this blog who support each other. If you havent been dating long or if your relationship is less than a year old you may not know your boyfriend well enough to determine why he stopped making an effort. So Im telling myself to just treat him like an acquaintance and move on with my life, but still find myself getting triggered on the daily by this baffling behavior. He got a divorce just over two years ago and lately he has been having some family issues. She bought it but ofc Im a bad liar. Its so frustrating and difficult when you love a man your boyfriend and he doesnt make any effort to see you, love you, or even respect you. It doesnt have to be a big, heavy relationship talk! Im just a girl whos watched a fair amount of psychology videos, but I hope that this advice helps you!! How much time should I spent apart from him and not talking to him? I literally had to make the dinner reservation for us. Whats the good of having money and a nice house if you dont enjoy your life!??? What he said was he passed out and decided to sleep at friends place because he was afraid of driving late. You can do it xoxox, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. Girl, thats not fair to you. Find yourself then get to understand your mate emotionally and mentally. But I feel as though he does not see the page that I am on, is there any way I can do that without it being an argument? My boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up recently, but within a few days, he decided he wanted to get back together to work things out. MUCH LOVE!!! But Im not certain its not because he now wants to hurry to get the house finished and sell it while the market is hot. You name it he does it. The first year was good, with what I call sparks! He is very sporadic with hugs and holding hands. Im a modest gal. I have met and gone out with his friends. Ive changed from an angry tone to a more assertive one but even if we sort them out, hed revert back to his old habits and ill start pointing fingers and he shuts it out again and eventually we stop talking about it altogether. But theres other strange things he does, when we go on dates that require conversation like coffee or dinner, or drives, he doesnt start any conversations. Never happened. I am feeling, like my expectations may be too high. im like nvr part of his schedule. He ignores me for a week and then talks to me like he rlly loves me and nothing happened. Its almost like when he couldnt have me he would try hard and now he has me and he doesnt have to put in anymore effort. Create your own personal world girl. If your S.O. Start by letting go slowly. I love my boyfriend, but just cant get the feeling that he feels the same. You have to be willing to become selfless. Get away from him immediately! But he has never considered making me happy for once. I would then open a honest discussion about how we both feel when I return. Ive tried to initiate intimacy and have been rejected because hes tired. It was great for a few months, but now the lock down is over (here in Europe) I feel like hes starting to make less effort again, prioritizing sports and friends again. Take matters into your own hands.be who you need for yourself, Love you and your son enough to care for your own needs. If, however, your boyfriend really has lost interest in you, then you may have to be painfully honest with yourself. Yesterday he said he had tried to write in his journal in the morning but it was took dark and did not want to wake me. He makes money but spends his money on the wrong thing. Any effort I make gets unnoticed and it is never enough. Everything has started crumbling over the last few months. WebYes bare minimum but extra behaviors from a coworker. SO , I DONT KNOW BUT IM FEELING AT THE END OF MY ROPE. Letting Go of Someone You Loveis filled with comforting, practical ways to heal your heart. Idk what to do anymore. He Wants You To Approach Him First. First off I pulled back without warning. But we were young and didnt need fancy dates. He has said that he would maybe consider living together in five years. Even when I would ask him in advance if he would like to make plans this weekend, he would say something like, Probably or I have a lot to do but we will probably figure something out. And then it would be the last minute, Hey you want to come over? So I was already starting to get the clue that I am a last priority option. And because Ive been depressed lately makes it that Im not much to look at, so why would he want to take me out now. I feel like Im the only one putting any effort for us to spend time together. He doesnt do the things he used to do. Since a month or so these fights are causing me to have panic attacks and he doesnt care when tell him how much it affects me. Living togeter or having sex before marriage is not accepted in my family and i also iddnt want to do that. And so on. But we got OUR place, he expects me to clean, cook, everything. Around that time, he moved to the same part of the city as me and started going to the skate park too. He drinks constantly. He stopped foreplay. It has still been difficult for me since we spent so much time together. If you really love him and see potential in the relationship then give it a try. and that is why up to now im still here with him despite the unhappiness. We have a beautiful home and are dog and cat owners. Especially since he cant even deliver the bare minimum in this relationship. You dont want to overreact, but its hard when your boyfriend stops making an effort. That being said, Ive grown up a lot in during our relationship which is my first and it means a lot to me and i will definitely regret our breakup. As he knows that everyone has me do everything for everyone. It had been more than a month since I had last talked to him. Coming to the realization that a partner is no longer emotionally invested in your commitment isn't an easy pill to swallow, and it's definitely not something to ignore. Every time I ask, he gets upset, and starts an argument, so why do I bother? Say you have a date tomorrow night. Now he wants us to not meet more than 2 times per week, even if none of us are working or studying full time at the moment. It became so bad that I almost broke up with him. The last few years have been tough. Theres little to no effort. Why cant he put in the effort? Just because you have no family, dont let that make him think that he is the one whos there for you and hence, he can decide to love you when he wants to. I dont want to lose him,i made a mistake and have learnt to trust him now! We still work on a project together so its not like I can just cut contact entirely, which I figured might be the reason why he is continuing to text, like he doesnt want things to get uncomfortable between us. About me. I love him so much but just dont understand why he doesnt care when I am upset. He used to come over to my place so often no matter what day what time. I just cant understand or relate to his lack of effort anymore. Hes not as affectionate, he doesnt help me plant my flowers, & he doesnt go to bed when I do. Not material things, but being romantic on special occasions. Anything and Everything in hopes he would think maybe he should do the same. Yes, I feel as if hes pulled away from me. P.S. WORKS BUT DOES NOTHING ELSE. Am I being needy too much? Also his mum is very protective of him and has him wrapped around his finger, when she wants him home he goes which is very frustrating for me. You wish your boyfriend was as attentive and loving as he was at the beginning of your relationship. His temper and his childish attitude and how he has to be right all the time. I may be demanding at times but I definitely know I deserve more than the effort hes willing to put in. Now my mom did not know about my boyfriend i was afraid to tell her cause she probably wouldnt approve that he didnt go to school. He gets angry and its caused a lot of fights lately. He spoiled her before they had kids then stopped completely as the kids needed his resources. I still have ticket stubs from all the movies we saw and how much trouble weve gotten into together. I asked him to spend Memorial Day with me shocker he forgot and made other plans. (Probably why she fell in love with another man) now its like he is determined for me to not become selfish. Anyways, he has told me before that he plans to make me his girlfriend, we have great conversations, hes very flirty but the problem is he doesnt text me often or try to call or set up a date. This man is no good for you, and he will never learn how to grow out of his depression if theres someone always doing everything for him. You see, now when you decide to leave him, its not because you dont love him, but its because you love yourself and respect yourself far more than you love him. I am very fortunate to be free from that. Then, all of the sudden the bottom drops out and he is unresponsive. But things went roughed to both of us.. Of course you want him to make an effort to wine and dine you; his time, effort, and energy shows he cares about you. Also, find some time to do something that you enjoy. He would go as far as always try and give me hugs and he would try for me all the time and text me non stop, he would put an effort into trying to get me and he would always call me pretty and beautiful. It is too immature an attitude for a 56 year old intelligent man. I had sent him links to little trinkets and gifts. I signed up for therapy and told him that if my behavior was hurting him, that I was willing to change. This guy isnt my boyfriend but we met in a way that would almost seen like fate. Interestingly I dont really like his love, yet Im the one trying to maintain a sex life and hes the one being cold and avoidant? Anyways, I eventually moved in with him and things were good. After this last incident, something broke inside of me and I said no more. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months. He is not interested in knowing what my love language is. I am not happy in this relationship at all. I had a quarantine birthday and got a ton of messages and phone calls from everyone, but from him? If youre not happy then leave him, its that simple. What should I do? That doesnt only mean that hes You can go through the next 10 years like this cause this man is not miraculously going to change.do not for 1 minute think he is going to suddenly wake up and be who you want him to be. Its always laying on the couch watching TV. I dont know what to do. Yet around the holidays, he has completely dropped off the radar and is barely giving me more than a one word text response back. If so, you have to trust that your relationship can handle this temporary lull in affection and attention. Oh n did i mention that i literally have NOWHERE ELSE TO GO? it just makes me sad. All you can do is give him space to love you the way he wants. 1) You would start to see your boyfriend noticing how positive, content and a happy individual you are turning out to be suddenly, and then wonder if therell be any other guys whod potentially be eyeing youbecause you are really becoming such a happy and lovely girl. ?pretty much hurts and also my first. Then, this guy comes up to me and asks if I was new there. What would you do? And acts like a concerned boyfriend if I dont immediately respond. Im sorry, and I know it can be a really hard thing to do, but you need to leave. When I asked for a picture of his siblings and friends, he refused again saying they are private people and doesnt have to do with our relationship. "It was hard taking the constant rejection." There is no consistency. Go back to doing the things I use to do before I met him. I bought him a beautiful set of cufflinks from his university for Christmas. LOVE IS AWESOME BUT GUESS WHAT HERE I AM 8 YEARS LATER AND HE STILL DOESNT CLEAN , STILL DRINKS. On a scale of 1 to 10, would you rate your relationship a 1 (you started dating within the last couple of months and are still in the beginning phases of getting to know each other) or a 10 (youve been dating for 20 years and know each other inside and out)? My boyfriend is a gifts/ Provider type of love which is always been difficult and I try to be super vocal about the ways I feel loved. Whenever I go anywhere its just me and the kids! Thats the only way you will know how he truly feels. The last year and half has been a struggle just one thing after the other. That is an abusive, toxic relationship and you deserve so much better! The point is if a man cares enough about his future wife and son would he want them to be safe and help them move to become a family.. Kiki, I do not like what you said about being the one who travels back and forth. 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